Dating Advice That Sucks: Telling a "Picky" Person They're Too Picky
"You're too picky... You have to lower your standards."
If you're the "picky one" you've heard it a million times. I have to say, the picky person is usually rational about dating. Say what you want but they're the ones who often nurse us after a breakup with a moron we lowered our standards for. They're the ones we don't even want to call up for dating advice because we know they're always right about our beloved asshole when we're just not to ready to hear that type of honesty, yet. While the rest of the world is compulsively dating a bunch of lames they shouldn't, the picky one tries their best to weed through all of the bullshit out there with the hopes of finding a pretty solid person to date.
I'm picky, and I'm sorry but, picky people are picky for a reason: we know what we want and we know what we don't. A lot of picky people don't start off that way – they've almost all have seen or been through some sh-t that made them realize they don't have to deal with crap. We don't see the point in wasting our time or, someone else's time on a relationship we know isn't for us. We've lowered our "standards" on numerous occasions and have been disappointed. This is why we have them. They don't come out of thin air unless you're some self-proclaimed princess with outrageous ideals.
The word "standards" is synonymous with being a picky bitch, but in real life, they're more like guidelines, making what we want out of a relationship clear.
For example, here are a few common high standards*:
- Someone funny – dating a serious asshole all the time is not fun.
- Someone who has his shit together – because honestly, who has time for fixing a dude right now.
- Someone generous – not totally related to chivalry or material things, but emotionally generous, because the two are very connected – I read a legit article once. Most of the cheap are stingy with their feelings too. Cough, Fred Mertz, cough. This is not always the case, and being cheap isn't the same as being fiscally responsible ( we can respect that) so, don't front.
- Someone who doesn't look like a monster – honestly, that's like the least important, but you have to not be repulsed by the sight of them because I mean, y'all are gonna have to touch eventually.
- Someone you can carry a conversation with – it should just flow naturally, you'll know when you know.
- Someone who supports what you do and love. Someone who you can support in the same manner.
- Someone who's on the same page as you – if you're over partying, don't date a club promoter. If you want kids, don't date a man who doesn't.
Those aren't that bad right? We're not asking for the non-attainable. So, keep shaming us for being picky, we DGAF because we typically have our crap together and are way too busy to deal with the same mistakes over and over again – clearly, we're not as patient as you. We're not picky, we just know what we deserve. Oh and by the way, we don't need you to set us up, we're fine.
* All standards above depend on your stage in life. Obviously, if you're dating with no intention of being in a serious, committed relationship, these rules don't apply. Get it, girl. Also, all opinions are completely my own, you can bash me on Twitter later.